Letting Go of the Past

Letting Go of the Past

Getting rid of stuff is rarely a matter of simply getting rid of stuff.

There is always more going on beneath the surface than meets the eye. The physical act of letting go is often not nearly as hard as the mental process of letting go. The things we own carry a history--ties to past people, places, and memories. That vase represents an argument with your mom, that letter a lost love, that sweatshirt an absent friend, that spoon the day your child ate their first food. Some of these associations bring joy. Some carry pain. Some a complex mixture of both. 

Room for Imperfection

Room for Imperfection

Organization does not equal perfection. 

The idea behind creating simple space in your life is not to become enslaved to maintaining a perfect home. Rather it is to establish helpful systems so that you can live and use your home well. If we are vulnerable and honest, usually our own internal thoughts are our worst critics. Mine certainly can be. As a professional organizer sometimes I worry that my home should always be perfectly clean and tidily organized, but here is the truth. It is not always. Often at the end of the day there is a room that could use vacuuming, or unpaid bills laying on the table, some laundry that needs folded and put away, my husband's coin collection spread out on the dining room table, dishes in the sink. I could look at these things as failures; but they aren't. They are simply signs that my home is a lived in place.

A Blessing and a Curse

A Blessing and a Curse

Owning things is both a blessing and a curse. Things can provide us with comfort, entertainment, social status, memories, connection with other people. You fill in the blank. They can make us feel safe, content, powerful, or provided for. But they can also become overwhelming. They can take up too much space in our homes. They can prevent rooms from being comfortable or useful. They can also take up too much of our time trying to organize and maintain. Sometimes, before any of us know how we got there, suddenly we are spending more time trying to keep the clutter at bay than actually enjoying life and using things as things, the way they were intended.